As an expert sommelier and brewer, I have had the pleasure of observing and participating in various etiquette practices when it comes to drinking. The question of whether it is “pinkies up” or “pinkies out” when holding a drink has been a topic of debate for quite some time. While both theories have their merits, I firmly believe that the most important thing to know about the pinky in the air is that it has no place in today's etiquette.
Etiquette, at its core, is about showing courtesy, kindness, and respect to others. It is about making others feel comfortable and included in social situations. Holding the pinky out when drinking, however, carries with it an air of snobbishness and superiority. It gives off the impression that one believes themselves to be superior or more refined than those around them. This goes against the very essence of etiquette, which is about treating others with equality and respect.
In my experience, I have found that holding the pinky out while drinking often creates an unnecessary barrier between individuals. It can make others feel self-conscious or inferior, as if they are not on the same level as the person with the pinky in the air. This goes against the spirit of camaraderie and inclusivity that should be present when sharing a drink with others.
Furthermore, the notion of holding the pinky out when drinking is rooted in outdated social hierarchies. Historically, it was believed that holding the pinky out while drinking showed that one belonged to a higher social class. However, in today's society, we strive to break down barriers and promote equality among individuals. The idea of using a physical gesture to assert one's social status is not only outdated but also goes against the principles of inclusivity and respect.
Instead of focusing on the position of the pinky, I believe we should shift our attention to the act of drinking itself. Etiquette when it comes to drinking is about being mindful of others, moderating one's consumption, and engaging in meaningful conversation. It is about enjoying the company of those around you and creating a welcoming atmosphere.
While the debate between “pinkies up” and “pinkies out” may be interesting, it is ultimately irrelevant in today's etiquette. The most important aspect of drinking etiquette is to treat others with courtesy, kindness, and respect. Holding the pinky out while drinking may have been a sign of social status in the past, but it has no place in our modern society. Let us focus on fostering inclusivity and camaraderie when sharing a drink, rather than on outdated gestures that only serve to create unnecessary barriers.