How do you tell if a customer is flirting with you?

Answered by Kyle Floyd

As an expert sommelier and brewer, I have had my fair share of experiences with customers who have flirted with me. Flirting can sometimes be subtle and hard to decipher, but there are some telltale signs that can help you identify if a customer is indeed flirting with you. Here are some indicators to look out for:

1. Body language: Pay attention to the customer's body language. Flirting often involves increased eye contact, leaning in closer, playful touching, or mirroring your actions. If you notice any of these behaviors, it could be a sign that the customer is trying to flirt with you.

2. Compliments and personal comments: Flirting often involves giving compliments or making personal comments. If a customer frequently compliments your appearance, personality, or skills in a way that goes beyond normal customer interaction, it could be a sign that they are flirting.

3. Playful banter: Flirting often includes light-hearted teasing or playful banter. If a customer engages in this type of conversation with you, especially if it has a slightly flirtatious undertone, it could indicate their intention to flirt.

4. Extended interactions: If a customer intentionally prolongs their interaction with you, seeks opportunities to engage in further conversation, or repeatedly visits your establishment when there is no apparent need, it could be a sign that they are interested in more than just the product or service you offer.

5. Inappropriate or suggestive comments: This is perhaps the most obvious sign of flirting. If a customer makes explicit or inappropriate comments of a sexual nature, it is a clear indication that they are flirting with you.

While it may be tempting to laugh off or ignore these advances to avoid making the situation awkward, it is important to clearly decline any sexual advances from customers. Here are some steps you can take:

1. Maintain professionalism: Remind yourself that you are in a professional setting, and your primary goal is to provide excellent service. Keep your interactions polite, professional, and focused on the task at hand.

2. Set boundaries: If a customer crosses the line with a flirtatious comment or behavior, calmly but firmly establish boundaries. You can say something like, “I appreciate your kind words, but I would prefer to keep our conversation focused on [the product/service].”

3. Redirect the conversation: If a customer persists in their flirtatious behavior, redirect the conversation back to the topic at hand. Steer the discussion towards your expertise in sommelier or , showcasing your knowledge and diverting their attention away from personal matters.

4. Involve a colleague or manager if necessary: If a customer's advances become persistent, uncomfortable, or inappropriate, reach out to a colleague or manager for support. They can step in and handle the situation appropriately, ensuring your safety and comfort.

Remember, it is crucial to prioritize your own well-being and maintain a professional environment. Do not feel obligated to tolerate or entertain any unwanted advances from customers.