What time is too late for a first date?

Answered by Joseph Vos

As a sommelier and brewer, I have had the opportunity to experience various social situations and interact with people from different walks of life. When it comes to setting up a first date, timing can play a crucial role in making a positive impression. While there isn't a specific time that is universally considered “too late” for a first date, it largely depends on the age and of the individuals involved.

For younger individuals, such as college students or those in their early twenties, a late-night first date may not be uncommon. Many people in this age group tend to have more flexible schedules and may be more inclined to stay up later. It is not unusual for them to meet up for a date around 9:00 or 10:00 in the evening. However, it is important to consider that some individuals might have early morning commitments, such as classes or work, so it's best to clarify their availability beforehand.

On the other hand, as people grow older and take on more responsibilities, such as careers or family obligations, it becomes less common to schedule a first date late in the evening. Many individuals in their thirties, forties, and beyond have established routines and may prefer to wind down and relax earlier in the evening. As a result, asking for a first date around 9:00 or later might come across as too late and intrusive.

It is always a good idea to be considerate of the other person's schedule and lifestyle. If you are unsure about their preferences, it is best to err on the side of caution and suggest an earlier time for the first date. This shows that you respect their time and are mindful of their commitments.

In my personal experience, I have found that suggesting a first date around 7:00 or 8:00 in the evening tends to be a safe bet for most individuals. This allows for a comfortable amount of time to get to know each other without encroaching on late-night hours. However, it is important to remember that everyone is different, and some individuals may have unique circumstances that make a later time more suitable for them.

To summarize, there isn't a definitive answer to what time is considered “too late” for a first date. It depends on the age, lifestyle, and individual preferences of the people involved. Being considerate and respectful of the other person's schedule is key. Suggesting an earlier time, such as 7:00 or 8:00 in the evening, is generally a safe choice. Ultimately, open communication and mutual understanding are essential in determining the best time for a first date.